You’ve seen the posts on Facebook, a friend posts something like this list that probably contained 50 items:
I don’t do these much, but this one looked like fun!
Bucket List – You’ll be surprised at the responses! This was fun!Been Married – yes
Been divorced – yes
Fell in love – Yes …..

 Or any of the similar posts.  And they want you to copy it and do the same.
Let me tell you why I DON’T participate.
When a lot of people think about their social media account getting “hacked” … they think the old fashioned way. Â A hacker somehow figures out your username and password. A la War Games. Â Someone who knows computer code stuff.
And yes, that still happens.
But it’s becoming ever more common for people – even those who do not have as much “code” experience – to simply GUESS your information. Â They do that through social engineering – the new type of hacking.
They learn about you.
They friend you on Facebook. Â Either as a stranger that you accept, or with a faked account from what you assume is a friend.
They pay attention to what you’re posting. Â Things you talk about in your life that may be important and provide some type of clue to what username or password you may use.
They see you have a kid who you talk about all the time. Â They’ve friended you so they can see your friend list and see your kid’s name. Â They see from HIS profile a birthdate or year. Â Or you posted Happy 27th Birthday son on your profile yesterday. Â So they try some combination of your child’s name and birthdate.
Or they see that your favorite place in the world is Bali. Â You go to Bali every year, stay at the same resort, and post about it on your social media without fail. Â And they figure out that your password is BaliGirl1.
Or they watch the answers you make to these types of “have you ever” posts. Â And in the file they have on you (yes, if they’re trying to hack you, they have a file on you), they’re saving all of your answers. Â And then next month when you do a different type of “have you ever” post, they’ll save those answers too. Â And they include your son’s birthday information. Â And everything else they’ve found out about you by simply watching.
And it’s not the Facebook account they want. Â It’s the websites that you use Facebook automatic login to access. Â Or they’re not even going to hack your social media sites but try to go directly to your bank account.
That’s why I don’t play these types of games.
That’s why I rarely accept friend requests from someone that I don’t personally know or that we have enough mutual friends in common that I can remember “oh yeah I went to high school with this guy”. Â And when I accept anyone even slightly questionable I put them on a “limited” list restricting what they can see. Â And why I keep my friend list private. Â And why I choose my audience thoughtfully with every post I make.
So feel free to send me requests for the type of personal question games that go around social media – just know I won’t respond (unless it’s something really goofy. Or I lie about my answers.)